“I have years of experience riding the dragon.” – Bernadette, The Big Bang Theory.
Women are amazing. From an early age you ride a roller coaster of emotions every month as your menstrual cycle continually refreshes itself. I can’t imagine men already hardwired with testosterone coated brains, coping with these fluctuations in the same way.
During the first two weeks of a woman’s cycle, they tend to be more socially relaxed as estrogen fertilizes their brain cells. In this estrogen phase, the hippo-campus experiences a growth of connections of about 25%, which can actually make a woman’s brain a little sharper. Her mind will perform better, she’ll be clear and even remember more. But then around the 14th day, the ovaries begin spurting progesterone, which will actually reverse the work of the estrogen and begin destroying those new connections in the hippo-campus. In these last two weeks, the brain will become more sedated, less focused, slower, and even more irritable.
Think about this guys and try to have some compassion for our female counterparts. Remember this when you begin growing irritated because you think your girls is “acting crazy.” It’s not her fault (most of the time anyways ) It’s just nature in all her wisdom decided to wire her this way and she’s just doing her best with the cards she’s been dealt. Imagine if we had to deal with these shifts in emotion every month, for a majority of our lives. There probably would’ve been a nuclear war by now. If men had to deal with things like menstrual cycles and pregnancy, there would be a hundred drugs to damper the effects of mood swings and cheer us up. Maternity leave? Not a problem, take a year off with pay. Morning sickness? we’d declare war on it like we do with cancer. Natural childbirth would be quickly phased out, not to mention that birth control would be absolutely 100% effective.
Now that I have taken all of this into account, it’s changed my way of looking at things completely. Looking back at my previous relationships, I see how insensitive I was to these things. As men, many of us treat PMS as some derogatory thing and even those three letters have become synonymous with “unmanageable” women. I wasn’t compassionate because I always thought it was something that could be helped and if my girl was acting up, it was because she was trying to be difficult. “Being a girl.” I was completely ignorant in these matters.
It’s not just women who should be taught about these things, boys should be too and it would go a long way to help improve relationships they will one day be in. In this male dominated world, we fall short when it comes to educating our boys on the opposite sex. With smartphone and instant access to anything you can think of, they are finding things that are teaching them contrary to reality and what it means to be in a healthy relationship. If your frame of reference is porn hub, you’ve misused the boat on this one.
I think about this now, in my interactions with women and it has improved my relationships dramatically. I no longer grow impatient or agitated and make insensitive remarks, like it’s something they should just get over. So think about this guys, the next time you feel your girls is “acting crazy” because it may just be the progesterone dragon riding high.