There at two types of people in this world. The ones who listen and the ones who just wait to their turns to talk. If I’m be in completely honest here, I’m the latter but I have a very promising future in the former.
Lately, I’ve been catching myself wanting to jump in the middle of a conversation I’m having instead of respectfully waiting for the other person to finish. Even after everything I’ve learned and all the changes I’ve made, I still struggle with this. I’m getting better though. It’s just sometimes I can’t help but to be overcome by my in me Vince Vaughness (think wedding crashers:) ). If you were someone in my family, this wouldn’t be anything out of the ordinary because you’d be doing the same. Something like a directors commentary on a DVD, speaking over and throughout the whole movie. It works for us, we thrive on it but I understand this isn’t for everyone.
I come from a family of professional conversationalists and once we get going, like a meteor, you’ll be hard pressed to stop us or get in a word edgewise; that is unless you’re accustomed to it.
My sister is actually the person who triggered this post. We were talking on the phone the other day and I asked her a question about work, which triggered her chatter reflex. She unleashed. Honestly I love it, my little sisters a beast. But towards the end a feeling hit me, something I may have not noticed before but never gave much thought. I finally heard what other people must hear when they listen to us talk. (My poor mother).
Though my family makes this form of conversation work, most people are not like us. Again, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve stopped myself from talking out of turn this past year but the good thing is I’m conscious of it and I’m working on doing better from here on out.
When it comes to my family, I don’t want it to change because it’s a part of who we at and I love it. Yet, when it comes to others, I’m going to do better of quieting my mind and taking in everything they say. One of the best things you can do in any relationship is to simply listen. Even a seemingly small thing like this can go a long way in building and fortifying our relationships. How can we ever really know anyone if we don’t listen. Think on this. When you talk to others, are you listening or just waiting for your turn to talk? Which of the two are you?